This interview is dedicated to my new bride, Amy.
Jeff Frankenstein (of the Newsboys): Well, I eat better now & Iím a lot cleaner!
No, seriously, marriage has made my life so much more fun! We have a great time together...
we laugh a lot... weíre pretty retarded at the Frankenstein household.
Ya- we definitely have fun... weíre more like goofy kids hanging out than anything else.
I think weíve learned just to slow down a bit & enjoy life. We both have busy schedules... life goes by so
fast... weíre just enjoying the experience together with our little family... the two of us & our cat,
Lilí Kim. Sheís from the ghetto & sheís ALL attitude. Hence the name.
Jeff & I met at Busch Gardens in Tampa, Florida a long, long time ago. We were friends for several years while I lived in Orlando. We started dating in early 1998 and I moved to Tennessee that summer. The details of our meeting are top-secret...
Be vulnerable & open. Be honest. Donít take things too seriously. Be careful what you say because you can
apologize, but you canít take it back. Be gentle with your marriage and cherish your spouse.
Never forget why you fell in love with each other in the first place & donít stop trying to win your
spouseís heart. Donít get home from the honeymoon and start wearing crusty sweatpants every day &
stop caring about what your spouse thinks just because theyíre yours now & they canít get away.
Make the effort- do the work- read books on relationships- go on dates- most of all, have a good time!
Our wedding was in Detroit, Michigan, where Iím from. It was the middle of December and the middle of a
snowstorm! There was like 4 feet of snow on the ground & although it was beautiful, it was also freezing outside! When we left the reception, we went to a honeymoon suite at this really nice hotel in a town called Birmingham to spend one night & then go to the airport the next morning to leave for New York.
We were so tired when we got to the room & we hadnít had anything to eat all day. We took all our luggage
in and tried to turn on the lights. Nothing. We ran around flipping all the switches... none of the lights
would come on! Not necessarily a bad thing in this case...until we realized the carpet in the living
room was soaking wet! There was some kind of leak somewhere and the floor was drenched! We had to have
a hotel handyman come up and fix it all...
But the rest of our trip was fabulous! It was just a rocky start. :)
Rebecca St. James:
I think the thing I've learned most recently about that whole courtship / dating thing is the importance
of openness and honesty. I think a lot of people today make it a game with elements of deceit in
it and a user mentality and God's not about any of that. And like even with my last relationship, I think it
was one of the biggest things we both learned through it. I mean I've always been an honest and open person
but we both grew in honesty and sharing our hearts and where we're at; and when there was a bit of conflict
or a misunderstanding, talking that through in love. Just kinda sharing it and how to do that. Cause as
girls we're just so open and just want to share everything and the guy can get their defenses up and say stuff
and get offended -- so just how to share it graciously.
Tiffany Arbuckle Lee (of Plumb):
I've learned to die more to self which enables me to put Jeremy's needs before mine.
It also helps me appreciate the value of the church, as the Bride of Christ, and validates my relationship
as my husband's bride, putting it in the correct perspective.
Always be a team no matter what we're a part of - be it in business, our home, church, friendships,
family, etc. Jeremy and I share a common goal while each of us having a different "job", if you will, that
compliments the other as opposed to competing with one another. We share in those things while still being able to appreciate one another's gifts
and hold one another accountable at the same time.
Besides the obvious... we bought a lottery ticket on our trip and actually won $547,236.00. No, Iím kidding,
but wouldn't that have been great? Seriously though, we got trapped at the Paris, France airport from a mistake
the Venice, Italy airport made that could've gotten a lot worse had my dad no worked for the airline and had
a connection to get us back to the U.S. (it was quite stressful for a bit).
In more ways than I can really say. In short, I am and am becoming, a more complete person.
To share my everyday with someone, both the dark and the light, seems to validate my experience of life.
The simple knowledge of being known as my wife knows me fills a large void in me that I donít know I even
recognized before getting married 4 years ago.
Make a list of all the things that bother you about the other. Then ask yourself what you are going to
do when none of those things ever change. This is an exercise in allowing Godís grace to be the cornerstone
of your relationship. If we go into our marriage expecting our spouse to change the things that bug us, we
set ourselves up for trouble. But if, instead, we set out to love unconditionally, we allow room for God to
change us in ways that balance out each otherís weakness.
We were having a romantic evening in our little cabin on an island north of Seattle, and had settled down
to bed early so that we could drive into Canada the next day. I had lit some candles (romance, candles, etc...)
and left one burning on top of the television across the room from our bed. When I woke up at roughly 2 AM
the room was a little brighter than I expected. This mainly had to do with the flames which were devouring
the TV. It cost us an extra bit to have the set replaced. But I get this fun story to tell.
Kalel (of Pillar):
It's hard to put into words. I have a perfect helper in life.
Always try to help out around the house - if you are a guy.
Our toliet in the MGM Grand overflowed and the whole bathroom flooded. We had to put towls in the door
way so it didnt flow into the room.
Chris Thomas (of The Elms):
I tell ya, it's messed everything up royally. Not really, but of course it's been a big change.
Everything on my "to do" list is different now. I used to make sure I met my fishing, bowling and sleeping
quota. Now I'm a grocery shopping, house cleaning, laundry-doing machine. In my down time, I stare at the
ever-growing stack of make-up and beauty products that have drained my bank account. Yet, even after
all the heartache, I wouldn't trade my decision to marry for the world.
Offer? I'm still seeking advice myself. Actually, if anybody has a few tips, I'd be much obliged.
In the short time that we've been married, we've made an effort to pray together, and I don't mean saying
grace. Asking God to bless all aspects of your life, including your marriage, is a great habit to form.
Just being together for a solid week was more than either of us could've asked for.
Nothing we did that week was out of the ordinary, but everything we did was
extraordinary because we were married. Of course, seeing the world's largest ball of
twine at a Ripley's Believe It Or Not museum comes in a close second.
Jamie Rowe (of London Calling / formerly of Guardian):
Well, the stock answer is to say "I learned how selfish I truly was..." and I have to say, in my case,
that was 100% true. You learn to be concerned with your spouse's needs equally and above your own.
I played the involuntary role of "insensitive bonehead" quite a bit early on. I've gotten better.
Only listen to London Calling the week of your wedding. That way we will always hold a special place in your
heart! Oh and also... Be committed to the Lord and each other! Be ready to protect yourselves from the
darkness that will attempt to unravel your marriage!
Our honeymoon consisted of a week cross-country trek to our new apartment in California. We were young and
broke, so we did what we could. We stayed in a lot of budget motels along the way and the closer we got to
L.A., the more coin we would spend. Taco Bell in TN and Marie Calendars in AZ. My wife went for a swim in
Phoenix and some drunk guys were yelling at her and whistling. I came out of the room... one guy offered her
a beer and I walked out and told the guy... "No thanks, my wife doesn't drink". It was the first time
I referred to her as my wife in public. That in itself was cool. But the guy looked at me and said
"That's your wife?" And then cussed and went back into his room!! DENIED!!!
Christine Glass Byrd (of GlassByrd): In so many ways. Fundamentally, my relationship with Marc
has given me hope. It is easier to believe in a loving Father when you
have someone who loves you so well right here on earth.
Marc Byrd (of GlassByrd / Common Children):
Marriage has brought joy to my life and humility. It has given me
a center, a point of reference, a home.
Congratulations! Get some pre-marital counseling from
someone you trust. And don't be afraid to fight every once in awhile.
And small kindnesses go a long way.
Let your wedding day be YOUR wedding day. And communicate!
Ian Eskelin (of All Star United):
It is great to have a partner to share life with. My wife Peggy is from NJ, so the
biggest change for me has been her attempt to turn me into a knowledgeable Yankees fanatic. But, she doesn't
realize that I don't like hockey.
Get ya money straight, learn to forgive, learn to communicate and, most of all, enjoy it!
A zillliiion times! I was raised in FL. Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure,
two dopest parks, no doubt. The Bible Theme park is kind of cool too.
Jon Foreman (of Switchfoot):
Aw man, love each other! Your pride is such a venomous animal and it pops up its head everywhere.
You can never kill it, but you can be aware of it and you can beat it down the best you can. That's the most dangerous
thing when it comes to love. John: Cool, yeah, cause we hear a lot of discouraging things
about marriage. Be afraid! Be fearfully and wonderfully made, y'know? Be ready to take both ends of that.
Disney World? I've been to Disney World, but Disney Land is a lot closer.
John: What do you recommend around Disney World? Oh dude, they've got some really cool
things down there. I moved from Virginia Beach to California, right? We went through Disney World -- it's not really
on the way, but anyways... There were some places where you could go and they've got pools and it's just really
relaxing. It's beautiful, it's really nice! Very "Disney," y'know? Very clean, there's no trash laying around.
John: No rides you recommend? No, no, it's a family type place.
Brian Peterson (Media Office at Sparrow Records):
It's given me a different perspective on what's really important in life.
Our 2nd night in Maui and we were off for a night on
the town. We took the shuttle to a local spot where we'd be dining. On
departing the shuttle, my wife, dressed in high heals and a summer dress
missed the last step. Fortunately she came away with only a small bruise.
Unfortunately the normal 3-5 people that would usually be waiting to board
the shuttle happened to be a group of 50 or so tourists that night. I had
departed slightly ahead of her turning back just in time to see my new
wife's graceful exit. Her slightly sunburned face, quickly took on a
brighter shade of red as we limped through the barrage of "are you okay's."
After escaping the crowd we were able to find refuge on a bench, regroup and
continue on with what turned out to be the perfect evening. Moral of the
story - don't let those little bumps and bruises steal the joy out of your
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